Preparing to move into a shared home

Are you moving into someone else’s home?

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Moving can be an exhausting and overwhelming task, but it doesn’t have to be! Moving into a companion home should be one of the easiest moves you have ever made. As you will be moving into a complete and established home, there is little you need to worry about other than your most essential possessions. However, some basic preparation can go a long way!

Getting ready for the move

Moving provides a unique opportunity to initiate positive change in your life. Perhaps you have a longing for a new adventure or experiences. Moving into a companion home usually requires you to adopt a minimalist approach. Now you may consider decluttering and minimizing your possessions. Now may be an opportune time to start a new chapter of life where you value experiences more than the things you own.

Things to consider:

  1. What is provided? Discuss with your host what will be provided in the home, such as bedding, towels, and kitchenware. If it’s already provided, don’t bring it with you.

  2. What do I want to bring with me? For example, your espresso machine, standing desk, and bicycle may be essential items for you. Discuss with your Host before packing to determine how much space you will have for these things

Tip: If you’re not likely going to use something, consider getting rid of it, or putting it in storage.

Setting expectations

Moving into a new home with others can feel strange. You will be around people who may have different routines and ways of doing things. This transition is a time to improve some bad habits that you have been wanting to change and introduce some good habits. Establish a personal expectation for your behaviours and communicate this with your housing companions. For example, if you’re going to get up at 6:00, you may want to be in bed by 9:30. Letting your housing companions know what your intentions are will help ensure you stay on track.

Many people bias their perception of a future living arrangement based on prior experiences. Perhaps you had a less than stellar shared living experience with a spouse or friend. These prior experiences should be reflected upon to determine your non-negotiables to set a foundation for what you want in your new living arrangement. Not all shared arrangements are equal. When they are bad, they can leave a very negative emotion that wears you down. However, if they are good and healthy, they can provide a truly uplifting and memorable experience.

Avoid assumptions! Your new housing companions will not know what’s on your mind and vice versa. Do not expect them to know what you need. Do not be afraid to ask questions, even for the most basic of things. The more transparent you are, the deeper you will find your connection becomes. A simple question can solve many problems that otherwise could have been bothering you for days.

Getting established

When you first move in, there will likely be some things that are unfamiliar or different than what you expected. If certain things do not work for you, or if you have an idea to improve it, bring it to your host’s attention. You are bringing a new perspective to the home, so you may notice things that others have grown accustomed to.

There are limitations to what a host may be able to change. For instance, if you live in an older home, some things may not be reasonable or possible to change. Instead of complaining about these things, approach your host with a potential solution. It is best to work together to reach solutions that work for everyone.

Establishing house rules

During the interview process with your housing companion, you will learn about the house rules and expectations. When you move in, you MUST review all of these again in detail. Establishing clear rules, expectations and discussing how you will address a breach of these terms should be discussed on your first day. Many conflicts and regrets can be prevented by doing this at the beginning of your new living arrangements.

Note: If certain rules are not working, you can revisit them with your housing companions to establish new terms that better suit your lifestyles. You have a right to voice your opinions and establish house rules that are fair for everyone.

Tip: You can refer to the Happipad move-in checklist for guidance.